The thought that can save your relationship….

In a relationship, many situations arise where you start arguing with each other. Many a times the reasons are very silly and yet you lose your senses and try to hurt each other. So here is advice for those couples who fight for no reason on how to make your relationship successful…

First thing you should understand is your partner is not bound to care for you always. Sometimes they can choose not to care. Everyone has a limit to how much they can bear.When the threshold crosses , it is impossible to avoid a fight. Depending on your partner for every emotional or mental problem , creates a situation where your partner has to deal with both your problems and their own.They stop telling their own problems in order to keep you calm. When this continues, a moment comes when your partner feels all alone . Their job now is to listen to your problems and try to calm you even though they are suffering inside. On one fine day, your partner can’t take it anymore and  breaks out and you will start blaming them for not understanding your problems.

But think carefully are you trying to understand why your partner suddenly lost calm ??

Is it that he/she does not want to share your problems and pain ??

Is it that he/she is selfish and cares only about him/her ??

If YES , then why didn’t that situation arise when you started your relationship ??

The answer is when you start a relationship, you do not take your partner as granted. You try to create more HAPPY memories with them than the opposite ones. You try to deal with your problems on your own to most extent . You know the difference between situations which you have to deal yourselves and which require a friend’s support. You give equal importance to both your own life and theirs. But as days continue, you become more boring. Those talks which you used to have for hours long disappear. You start merging your life with theirs completely. Your individual goals become now combined goals. You start comprising few things and changing few choices.This is the crucial step which decides the future of your relationship.The moment you are compromising something for your partner you start to expect more in every thing like more love, more caring, more patience to listen to your problems,etc  in return. Compromise is an investment on a relationship which we think will give us profits but in long-term ruins us. Instead of compromising you must discuss more and more.Fights are good for a relationship until there is a rational discussion from both sides. So what to do if a fight happens …..It’s very simple…

Overcome your Ego and make the first move.

The things you must consider are :

Did you want this fight to happen  ??…….NO….

Is the fault yours ?? ……..NO….

So is it your partners fault ?? ……Yes ?………………….actually NO…..your partner might also be reading exactly this sentence right now. Your partner will be in the exact same mental situation as yours.They might behave differently but deep inside they are just your mirror image………

Then who should break this silence ???

If I say  YOU …your immediate question will be “Why me always???” …..and my reply will be “Why not?“.You are not in some competition to decide who wins the fight. You just love each other. If you want to end the fight then why wait ?? What do you want to prove ?? Do you want to prove that it was not your fault and you are not sorry?? Or do you like to dominate your partner?? …Remember my friend this is not school, relationship is not an exam and  there is no  grading.Even if you fail it leaves you with countless memories.Just stop thinking and call your partner right now and discuss a completely random topic forgetting the whole fight that was about to ruin your life.

When you can forgive yourselves for many faults in your life, Can’t you forgive your most loved person??………………..